Selfless suffering as codependency: “Here, let you help me...” Last week I wrote in part about “selfish selflessness” and how it’s linked to our shame. I’m going to keep the train rolling. I think "selfish selflessness" leaves the people being "served" with a sense that the one being "selfless" isn't really there. Example: no one may have a single bad thing to say about the person who always goes along with everything. However this "selfless" person's lack of boundary often leaves people with a general sense of uncertainty about that individual. If their yes's and no's are not clear, who are they? It’s the classic "nice guy" fallacy.
Selfish selflessness continued.
Selfish selflessness continued.
Selfish selflessness continued.
Selfless suffering as codependency: “Here, let you help me...” Last week I wrote in part about “selfish selflessness” and how it’s linked to our shame. I’m going to keep the train rolling. I think "selfish selflessness" leaves the people being "served" with a sense that the one being "selfless" isn't really there. Example: no one may have a single bad thing to say about the person who always goes along with everything. However this "selfless" person's lack of boundary often leaves people with a general sense of uncertainty about that individual. If their yes's and no's are not clear, who are they? It’s the classic "nice guy" fallacy.